Loxley wrote:Guys, guys...
I think you're all missing the point here...
AP is wrecking my fantasy team!!!1!
OK no...
I just think all that chat about "the goverment" and then "jesus" is kinda off of the main topic.
A grown up man spanked a kid for who knows what reason.
My father used to warn me when i was kid with the classic "belt" discipline and to be honest, I don't think there was a need for that. I think there are really better ways to make a child understand if he did something wrong that doesn't have to involve violence.
You can't talk a dog about what he did and expect him to understand. You can't simply go like "hey Rex, listen, what you did was unacceptable and you have to understand it ok?" You may hit a dog cause there's really not too many ways around it but a kid's no dog or animal, a kid's not stupid if you talk him clearly he'll understand what he did was wrong and there will be no need to use violence.
Yep, you guessed right, im against spanking and i think Adrian Peterson failed here if you're gonna treat your kid like a dog who can't control himself then you need to evaluate your competence as a parent.
He said it was Christian to accept punishment decisions, so I felt the need to quote Jesus to tell why doing awful things to children is wrong.
My main point is, I understand some people like to use violence as punishment, or at least the threat of violence. Personally, I am completely against it. My dad got the switch as a kid. He has several mental problems now. My mom was horribly abused. She also has mental problems, anxiety, depression, the works. Everyone I know in my personal life who received violent punishment as a child has been harmed in later life. As a result of my mom and dad's upbringing, they only ever spanked me ONCE in my life, and it was after I did something horrible when I was old enough to know better. After that, they never even threatened to do it again. Not once. I will NEVER use or threaten violence once I have children. There is always a better way. Even with my views, I know people will still use violence against children. Spanking, while I completely disagree with using it, is not the worst thing on earth. Look at the Peterson situation, however. The photos, from a week later mind you, show that he did what could be considered abuse or torture to that child. The wounds were not close to fully healed after a WEEK. THAT IS NOT OKAY! Spanking is a gray area. What Peterson did is quite frankly horrifying. And even more against his case, I was disciplined with spanking only when I did something VERY wrong and an age OLD ENOUGH TO KNOW RIGHT FROM WRONG. Peterson's child is far too young to know better, and WAY too young to receive a beating so severe. That is my main point.
Also, a little bit of a moderator word. I'm quite surprised a discussion like this has stayed pretty civil for so long. Keep it up! I feel it's something important to discuss, but these topic usually tread on thin lines.
